Problems Solo

The storm after the calm

The definition of a woman who offers any basic dictionary could not be simpler. From the Latin "mulier". I wish in reality all were that simple. The truth is that female gender is not easy to explain let alone understand, then why go into complications?

The answer to both men seek after ending a relationship that corresponds to a question be avoided while "things are going well" and that apply when the storm of unwanted breakdown and much less publicized, breaks the sound-or maybe insane-time peace partner.

Given these circumstances, the man who has already committed emotionally-perhaps not have noticed before-head full of doubts and even a curse that he had not been the case in other circumstances.

However, questions will only deaf waste time and get nothing in return. A woman, well, it beats any other way.

The first step is to identify the cause of the problem, read in this case separation, which in 99.9% of the time is due to the misunderstanding that "one" is about the "other". That's where the root of the disagreement.

Before you panic, because men fear, it is necessary also from an irrefutable premise: there is nothing more than a man and a woman. We think differently, physically we are different, obviously, we act according to social roles often highly polarized and, worse, not equal love.

Beyond the obvious, ie the biological characteristics, we must also focus on ways of seeing the world from the perspective of a male and not so fragile its counterpart.

To begin with, will always be highly recommended to improve communication but putting this into practice is another entanglement comes into play because a term that seems harmless but that requires being at the height of the conflict: empathy, ie, learning to see things from a perspective that is not their own and may even be diametrically opposed.

Valiente, then, the man who dares to think like women. No joke, I say very seriously. Intelligent which at least willing to attempt such a feat, for which input you deserve more than my total respect, whereas in the bottom of the dilemma between a man and a woman is often a lack of understanding. Everything in life comes down to a terrible mess: "Neither do I mean, not you understand me."

Empathy. Curious word. In the analysis we find that this little word comes from the old word εμπαθεια, εν formed "inside" and πάθoς, "suffering, what suffers." In a nutshell, is the ability that we have all regardless of gender, to perceive, in a shared context as that of the couple, what the other person keeps in his heart, what ails you, that which takes the sleep.

From these and other topics we shall deal in due course. As soon as the first step is knowing that when the woman goes all is not lost especially if you are determined to recover and is ready to fight, start the battle, grab, take the fight to the end, whatever the cost, as it has to be done.

Make yourself warned: the process is arduous, demanding, sometimes stressful. Will cause discouragement, disappointment, anger, uncertainty, emptiness. Probably will not be short and at times be tempted to throw in the towel. Turn require comprehensive self-diagnosis, a reflection on the possible causes of alienation and the nature of the woman he has been-some, not all are equal, a provision not to change but if the moderation in behavior that may have caused the reversible outcome (because women always say that men are to blame, you can reverse printing, you'll see how), a serious attempt to empathy and, finally, determining the actual value of relationship has on your life.

These aspects will be key to resolving the dilemma of love.

At this moment, one thing can be seen: You are definitely willing to grow in the process and eventually declared the winner, otherwise I would not have spent even a minute of your time to follow these lines now surely will make you think in what follows.

For now, I make a promise to win back the woman he loved, desired, that is all that strange to be an adventure that will be worth living. Let us begin.